Avoiding the family holiday drama

Whether it’s a week in the sun, the Easter bank holiday or the long anticipated Christmas festivities, there are some key rules for avoiding a family holiday drama. If you have any pearls of wisdom to add, please leave them in the comments below to help others ūüôā


1. Don’t set expectations too high – you can only control 50% of the conversations and interactions. You are responsible¬†for your words and actions but not those of others. You might not know¬†what they have going on behind the scenes which in turn drives¬†their mood and behaviour.

2. Set some clear boundaries about how you would like the holiday to be (and stick to them) – if you need some time with yourself/partner/your family each day (to chat, gossip, laugh, eat) make sure you schedule it so that from day one you have that time out to recharge.

3. Have a code word – that is your ‘get out’ code for when things are getting to hard to handle. My friends and I use this all the time and it is a superb ejector seat in life! Eg: cousin Bertie is really pushing your buttons, so you can say to your ally, ‘How about we open that pack of ‘bourbon’ biscuits now’. ‘Bourbon’ is your code to action ‘get me out of here NOW!’

4. Keep a notebook for anecdotes – it might be painful writing some of the events at the time, but in weeks, months, years you might laugh or at least shock friends with the outrageous behaviour of others! You will hone your skills of tongue biting as you can lodge all your thoughts down on paper with the satisfaction that you didn’t join in the circus of a crazy debate or argument.

5. Have something each day that you can look forward to – whether it is quiet time reading a great book, a soak in the bath with a glass of wine or taking off with a friend/child to the bakery/garage. See it as a treat, look forward to it and don’t take your eye off the ball.

6. Be prepared for the unexpected – have you thought what your reaction would be if another guest told your child off for something? How would you handle seeing another guest’s child doing/saying something naughty? Have you packed your European health card? Have you packed any hard cash for an emergency getaway if needed?

Holidays should always feel fun, but sometimes they just aren’t, for all sorts of reasons. You certainly learn over time the people that can be trusted and are reliable when away from home and those times are fabulously memorable. But sometimes we are thrown together with people that just aren’t our cup of tea, so I hope that if ever you find yourself in that position that this blog comes to mind and gives you some comfort and top tips!


Father’s Day Beer

After years of buying novelty items, socks, hankies and general unwanted presents…this year, why not buy your dad a gift your KNOW he will enjoy and savour!

I have always been a fan of the unassuming St Peter’s Brewery based in Bungay, Suffolk. It was recently said to be ‘the most beautiful brewery in all the land’ and who am I to disagree…
IMG_3066Not only do St Peter’s Brewery offer brewery tours (always a gift winner!) but you can stay and enjoy a pint over lunch at St Peter’s Hall, renowned for it’s wonderful food, live music events and warm, friendly hospitality.

If you can’t make it up to Suffolk for Father’s Day, fear not….you can pick up a terrific selection of St Peter’s Brewery beers¬†from supermarkets and stockists from around the country including: Tesco, Sainsbury’s, Waitrose, Whole Foods amongst others. It is a fine offering from Ruby Red, Honey Porter and Cream Stout, to name a few.


But what is VERY exciting is that the range includes TWO gluten free beers!


You only have to look on Instagram to see that St Peter’s Brewery beer is the gift that keeps on giving! Happy Father’s Day (21st June) to all the dads out there, CHEERS!

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Hair and Beauty Essentials

My fabulous hairdresser Grace, introduced me to Kerastase Resistance recently and I can’t believe the difference it has made to my hair. It is more expensive than hair products I have used previously, but I am hooked! We often spend substantial sums having our hair coloured but then scrimp on the products we use at home. 

My favourite products are Nectar Thermique which makes my hair extremely soft and Ciment Thermique which protects my hair from heat from my hairdryer and GHDs.

My friend Georgina bought me Philip Kingsley’s Elasticizer which is terrific for strengthening hair and really easy to use. 

On trend Georgina also introduced me to Beautiful Skin from No7. It’s a hydration face mask, which looks like marshmallows and feels and smells great. My skin always feels so smooth after using it.

For a glowing, radiant look after a mask and before applying makeup, try one of the Botanics Radiance range. I only use a tiny amount and the result is soft, shimmering skin. 
The best daily moisturiser I have found is Neutrogena – it doesn’t leave my skin oily and is perfect if you want to use makeup straight after applying. Neutrogena also make a fabulous Rapid Clear Treatment which is essential for any blemishes. 
Another great product to use prior to applying makeup is Maybelline Baby Skin. I sometimes use it instead of moisturiser, it fills any pores making it a perfect base before using foundation. 
If you ever find that your eye make up irritates your eyes, try using No7 Stay Precise liquid liner, Bourjois Khol and No7 sensitive mascara – they are produced for sensitive eyes, the results are terrific and there is no compromise on appearance.

I am a big lip balm fan and one of the best that I have found is Norwegian Fomula, it is one of my all time essentials. For a treat, Tom Ford’s Blush Nude has to be the ultimate in lipstick. It is lovely to apply and it smells divine!

There are many makeup removers on the market but the most effective one I have found is Garnier Micellar Cleansing Water; it is not harsh on skin, is really effective in removing all traces of makeup and does not leave skin dry or oily.  

Do you have any desert island product essentials? I would love to hear about them so do leave a comment below…

Thanks for reading, liking, sharing!

Victoria x


The True Cinematic Experience

It’s fair to say I am a cinema passionista! I adore everything about going to the cinema and the more old skool, the better!

Occasionally, I will visit an enormous multi-screen but it usually leaves me penniless and feeling a bit empty. Okay, so the plush seats recline and you can eat and drink like a giant, but for me, I prefer a more eclectic experience.

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In my teens I visited friends in Cyprus and on the Friday evening we all piled into the local cinema where the only place left to sit was in the aisle. This was considered perfectly acceptable. It was a haphazard place and the atmosphere was electric as we all waited for the film to start. People chattered all through the film and somehow this added to the laissez faire ambiance.

I have never needed a film buddy to enjoy the cinema (although it is always nice to have company) and don’t feel uncomfortable about watching films on my own. As a student and an au pair, I kept unusual hours and would often fill spare time in London and Paris in little side street cinemas that showed films I was desperate to see but had very little exposure.

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I am always on the look out for cinemas which offer something different and feel that the UK has a terrific offering. For a long time, the Abbeygate Cinema in Bury St Edmunds was my local cinema and I can remember watching ‘Brief Encounter‘ there with the local vicar! It was one of the first places I had been to where you were offered a glass of wine (in an actual wine glass!) and a slice of homemade carrot cake!


Prior to this, I would visit the Duke of Yorks Picturehouse in Brighton. It is where I saw ‘Amelie‘ for the first time – the film that really introduced me to foreign film. It is still amongst my favourite films, along with ‘Little White Lies’, ‘Life is Beautiful’ and ‘Cinema Paradiso’.

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I am a real ambassador of the Picturehouse group as they are so inclusive and even have ‘Big Scream’ viewings, so that parents with very young children still get to have an afternoon at the pictures without having to compromise on the film choice! They also have a Silver Screen club for over 60s, a kids club, Vintage Sundays, autism-friendly screenings and double bills.

I was lucky enough that when I lived in Lytham, recently, there was a wonderful cinema on the beach called the Island Cinema. I spent hours there as it only cost ¬£3 to watch a film! My friend Nicole and I would make it a weekly event as she would collect me en route in her Mini Cooper. We would cry together watching ‘The Book Thief’ and gasp at Leonardo’s performance in ‘The Wolf of Wall Street’.  I also like the fact that you can buy the old film posters, a great treat for enthusiasts.

pleasureisland_lythamStAnnesA cinema that I was fortunate to go to a couple of months ago, was the Electric at Portobello Road. It had been on my wishlist for a long time and it didn’t disappoint in the slightest. Its small frontage hides the most magnificent cinema. There is a stylish bar where you can order posh burgers and champagne and you have the option of a sofa or cosy armchair with foot stool (which houses a blanket for your legs!). I have never seen so many people taking photos prior to the film starting. The whole audience were really excited to be there and it really is worth a visit.

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Last weekend I travelled to Woodhall Spa as I had heard that the ‘Kinema in the Woods‘ was a great day out (via @MrsHound thank you for the top tip!). It was truly magical. As you travel through the woods you come across the alpine lodge cinema and as you step inside you are transported back in time.


The red foyer welcomes you with film memorabilia including a Dr Who dalek and there is a piano in the movie theatre, which I assume must get played before some showings. I was quite taken aback when half way through the film there was an interval and this absolutely added to the authenticity of the cinema.


This summer I plan to visit the Melton Mowbray Regal as it has come highly recommended (thank you Sarah at Stamford Beauty)…

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…the Electric Picture Palace at Southwold, where apparently ‘God Save the Queen’ is played before the film…

Electric Palace Southwold cinema …the Pillow Cinema, the ‘cosiest cinema experience this side of a fluffy cloud’ located in a former tube station and where you can take along your own pillow (BYOP – no pillow, no entry!) – as recommended by my friend Grace (the best hairdresser EVER!)…


…and the Burghley Film Festival, for a combination of great film, a magnificent setting and a picnic!


Are you a film buff? Do you seek out secret cinemas too?! Share the cinema love with your brilliant discoveries…after all, sharing is caring!


Quick and Easy Meatloaf

I am no domestic goddess! But after a recent trip to Sweden and being served a delicious meatloaf, I decided to make one myself on my return.

It was a case of googling a recipe (find it here!) and gathering the ingredients:

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filling a prosciutto lined loaf tin with the mixture and cook for 1 hour at 190 degrees (fan oven).

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It was enjoyed as an afternoon lunch and I have been requested to make it again!

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Thinking of a holiday by the sea?! Southwold has it all!


I have been visiting Southwold for years. It fast became an Easter time tradition to spend a long weekend in the pretty Suffolk town and this year, I was lucky enough to be spend a week there. South Green is in the heart of Southwold with easy access to the beach, the pubs and the shops!

South Green I am told that Southwold in the 80’s had very little tourism. These days, the cafes are heaving with families and at 6.30pm there is an orderly queue of customers in the Red Lion, all keen to place their food orders.

You feel instantly relaxed in Southwold and the town has everything there to help you unwind from a busy work and social calendar. A favourite pastime was visiting the Two Magpies Bakery and indulging in a slice of drunken apple cake or Adnams Broadside pudding!

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A walk along the beach at 7am is another wonderful…

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Drink In Brighton

Thrilled that my Suffolk seaside blog is being enjoyed…here’s last month’s blog about the brilliance of Brighton!


Last week, I was¬†recommended to check out ‚ÄėDrink In Brighton‚Äė.

It was a glorious walk down memory lane!  I used to live in Brighton and if you haven’t been, it’s an Aladdin’s cave of eclectic and groundbreaking discoveries. Whether you are looking for clothes, jewellery, events, art or eateries you will find the most unique choice in the lively seaside city.

(Yes, it is a city! ¬†And for a true delight seek out this little treasure written by my old boss, Dr Anthony Seldon¬†‚Äď click on book if you would like¬†it for your bookshelf!)

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As I made my way through the family tree of trendy pubs and bars that form @drinkinbtn the familiar venues triggered colourful memories from my outlandish time there…

‚ĶNew Year‚Äôs Eve at the Open House¬†‚Äď a fabulous¬†place to see in a new year, as it‚Ķ

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